Best selling Author | STRENGTH & POWer
Adversity makes life more interesting. Overcoming it makes life more meaningful.
I find it so frustrating and confusing when people say to me ‘OMG you’re so lucky’ my usual response is to politely smile while having a quiet split-second memory flashback of why I don’t perceive this statement to be true. Strength and Power takes you on a journey through my life and describes all of the setbacks and adversity I have faced.
Some of you may be facing challenges right now – including losing a loved one to cancer, domestic violence, rape, homelessness, being unemployed and on benefits, divorce, being a single parent, serious illness, debt, fuel poverty to name a few.
I’ll share with you my quiet split-second thoughts when people say to me ‘OMG you’re so lucky.’ I don’t believe it was because of luck I am where I am today, I guess I found a profound Strength and Power to keep moving forward with determination, and I believe you can too.
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About – Jo Gilbert
Its taken me 47 years to become an overnight success and “so lucky” according to many people I speak to. The truth is I have lived a life full of adverse events and setbacks, which I have had to find the inner strength and power for and learn to overcome. I kept moving forward in the belief that life was not meant to be that way.
I am happily married to Craig my husband of the past 7 years. We currently live in the UK, Stoke-on-Trent, with our two rescue Podenco dogs from Lanzarote Flor and Louis. And for the past couple of years, we have been commuting back and forth to Lanzarote our 2nd home. I have three children, Sarah 27 mum to my grandson Charlie aged 6 and Beckii 24 mum to my grandson Finley aged 15 months. both girls from my 1st marriage and my son Tom 21 from my 2nd marriage.
I’m a self-employed business entrepreneur, innovator and apparently now a number 1 Amazon Best Selling Author. Recently appointed CEO of Female Success Network, specialising in helping female entrepreneurs and any woman looking to achieve their version of success in Life and Business. I am also the Managing Director of Skywalk Utilities (See www.skywalkutilities.co.uk) and a Mindfulness and Meditation Practitioner.
Mindfulness & Meditation
One of the most important tools I now use and teach is mindfulness and meditation. 20-minutes meditation in the morning and 20-minutes in the evening. I practice mindfulness and meditation daily ensuring I am taking aligned action during the completion of any task.
What is meditation and why do I hold it so highly in my self-development toolbox?
“Meditation refers to a family of techniques which have in common a conscious attempt to focus attention in a non-analytical way and an attempt not to dwell on discursive, ruminating thought” (Shapiro, 1982)
Let that one land with you, it is a conscious attempt to focus our attention in a non-analytical way. Imagine if you could really control and focus your attention whenever you wanted to.
I have been practicing this method of focus for 25 years since deciding to take control of epilepsy seizures. I didn’t
I have since gone on to become qualified as a Mindfulness and Meditation Practitioner. My 1-2-1 sessions and workshops will help you in all areas of your personal and professional development. We will really work on focus and
Imagine how amazing your work output would be when you sat down to begin a task if your attention was completely focussed because you were so in control of your mind.
Imagine if your mind could no longer get distracted and drift you into procrastination and move you away from the task at hand. How powerful and valuable is that! Definitely worth the 40-minutes a day investment.
Imagine if you were fully aware of what you were eating and drinking. The focus, attention, and awareness that meditation and mindfulness can provide you to ensure you intuitively eat and prevent unnecessary weight gain.
What about love and kindness meditation? Or Sports meditation, or endurance meditation?
Meditations can be as quick as 60 seconds, you can complete them at any time during the day or night. They are so simple to learn and practice, the 60-second meditation technique can be done virtually anywhere.
You can discover more about how you can apply mindfulness and simple to learn meditations in my workshops and 1-2-1 sessions. I am also running mini-retreats for those who really want to immerse themselves and take more control in their lives.
Key Note Speaker
I have attended and been a guest speaker at many conferences and events over the years, speaking at events held in the O2, the NEC and the Excel Arena. I’ve have also appeared as a guest speaker online via webinar for various business and networking support groups.
Chalk Talks: I provide motivational talks and support on a number of topics. Disclaimer – I didn’t obtain my teachings from a university degree, I educated myself at the university of life, it taught me more than a textbook ever could, I have experience, not theory!
I can cover any of the topics I mention in my book Strength & Power and can also cover many areas of business from start-up right the way through to exit.
Feel free to contact me if you feel I can assist your conference, event or group in any way.
Chalk Talk & Support
Back to basics method of delivering relevant, purposeful content on a particular topic to an audience, either on a 1-2-1 basis or 1 to many. I’m a very visual person and I find this method of training works really well.
I’m not a fan of the word ‘Coaching’ it does seem to be the in-thing just lately with coaches popping up everywhere making promises of all kinds, mostly focussed on income generation. Well, I’m not going to make you any promises regarding income generation. I do promise to share with you all the tools and techniques that have helped me over the years to support my clients to successfully devleop their businesses, increase revenue and generate profits. I will share with you some key learnings from my life, my book and the success steps I have taken to get where I am today. I believe you should focus on being your best self, delivering a fantastic product or service, building a sustainable business that has exemplary customer experience, the income will flow from that naturally as a by-product.
Given my vast experience across a broad range of life’s adverse topics and my successes in business my Chalk Talks & Support will cover an array of subjects on a personal and professional level.
Services Available to You
Tools & Techniques
When Adversity Strikes
Did you know that there are 8 different types of coping mechanisms?
These can then be broken down even further in to 40 different sub categories.
In our 1-2-1 sessions, I will cover coping with adverse life situations such as divorce, unemployment, cancer, ill health, domestic violence, poverty and financial hardship, just some of the topics covered in my book Strength and Power. We will map out and plan a strategy for recovery and move forward in a positive, mindful, fully aware and happy state.
If you need personal or career support and guidance or mentoring, my 1-2-1 coaching packages can be tailored to suit your individual requirements.
Showing Up for Yourself
Have you ever been invited to a party and come up with endless reasons why you can’t go e.g. its cold outside, ill miss my favourite TV programme, I don’t know anyone, I’ll be on my own, what if no-one talks to me, I don’t fit in. Right up to the point where you either don’t show up and offer no explanation for the no-show or you contact whoever invited you and make up some story like your cat got sick.
What about not applying for that dream job? Starting your own business? Going on that dream holiday? or meeting your dream partner? I guarantee you aren’t showing up because the sub-conscious mind chatter is holding you back. Working together we will look at these barriers to moving forward and break down these self-sabotaging beliefs, to ensure you achieve your very own version of success but everyone’s ‘success’ is measured differently.
Dealing with Adversity Top Tips
- Don’t immediately adopt a negative response to adversity and set-backs. I know this may be challenging, but don’t give a negative or upsetting situation more than 5 minutes of airtime. It’s how you respond to it that will determine how quickly things will get back on track for you. I always told my children when they were faced with challenges or difficult situations, if you keep saying ‘I can’t’ then you won’t, it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy instead tell yourself the positive affirmation ‘I can, and I will’. Focussing on the negative will only hold you in the adverse situation or circumstance and could lead to depression. Acknowledge adversity when it happens, there is nothing you can do about it, it has already happened, it’s how you respond to it that will be the difference.
- Look after yourself! Self-love is really important. If you don’t look after yourself, you will have nowhere to live. Take positive affirmation action every day to ensure you are living your happiest life and taking care of your own personal well-being.
- Give yourself a break! Don’t go beating yourself up daily if you make a mistake or forget to do something.
- Be fully aware of negative chatter going on in your mind. Don’t listen to it and recognise it when it happens. Show up for yourself and stop the sub conscious ego from taking over with negative chatter.
- You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with. Check those five people out and if they aren’t like-minded to you and share in your positive beliefs and values then it’s time for change.
- Put yourself in to adverse situations, the more you face and deal with adversity the stronger you will become at overcoming it. Do something that challenges you every day, step out of your comfort zone and take some risks.
Specific: get the details down of what it is you are trying to achieve. Be as specific as possible, simply saying id like a new car is a start but it isn’t enough. Better is “Id like a new family saloon, with additional safety features so I can take the kids out on day trips when they are on school holidays in April”
Measurable: When do you want to achieve this goal by and how are you going to measure your progress towards achieving it? Be as precise as possible here.
Achievable: If your goal is seemingly unachievable you will give up, always celebrate the small wins, take small positive achievable steps and as I would tell anyone never try to swallow the whole cake, a slice at a time is plenty.
Realistic: SO you want to become a millionaire but you’re earning national minimum wage? Great, Im not saying one day you won’t become a millionaire but you will need to be realistic about how you are going to achieve this – theres is a lot of planning and hardworking involved, unless of course you hit the lottery jackpot but highly unlikely the odds are stacked against us.
Timely: Set yourself a time frame in which to achieve the goal. If you don’t there won’t be anything urgent about the delivery of it so it will always get pushed to one side or worse completely forgotten about and given up on. Goals without timeframes are simply dreams with no action plan.
Next we will begin to visualise your goal to make this seem even more realistic, if you can see it in your mind, you will feel it in your heart and do everything in your power to get to the goal destination.